I Will Shine

Dear lovely people,

Gina is a star. As a matter of fact, she shines like a star in all she does. Gina has a unique style of finding ways to support others and in the process, gets their time and attention. She progresses in almost all she does because she commits her time and energy to make real connections which is so much more than just exchanging contact information and fading into the background.

She is always seen providing high value, asking the right questions and looking for how she can contribute to people’s success as well. When I asked her what her secret is, she said: “Don’t wait to establish relationships until you need a favor. Build relationships built on mutual support and value from the beginning.” I don’t think there is a better way to have said this, that’s precisely the point.

But then, in the quest for prominence in life, many are those who miss this point and through their actions, prove right the challenging question in Matthew 7:3 “Why do you see the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?”

It’s easy to see the shine of a new roof from a distance. But over time, that shine can dull as dust collects on it. In the same way, your actions, thought patterns, mind-set and predispositions can dull your chances of making it big in life and thus blur your shine. Such a life which once sparkled with great plans, excellent dreams and hope can become clouded with miscalculations, lack of focus and an endless trails of failures.

Before you can make it big to the extent of becoming a light to others, take a good look at the processes and happenings in your own life. Has mediocrity, inertia, lack of focus, blind-rocking, gold-digging etc. dulled the evidence of hard work, dedication and love of God in you? Maybe it’s time to stop, take a moment and ask yourself some hard questions such that, you can then submit them to God in prayers. If there are issues you have so identified that are blocking your own progress, clearly write them down and take them to God on bended kneels. Ask God to give you the strength, inspiration and consistency to set an internal self-transformation into motion.

Gift Of Kindness

Dear lovely people,

“When we feel love and kindness toward others, it not only makes others feel loved and cared for, but it helps us also to develop inner happiness and peace.”  - Dalai Lama XIV

It was late afternoon and I was driving home. At the Central hospital junction, I turned right instead of keeping straight and it didn’t occur to me until I had packed my car and found myself within the hospital premises. It was strange but I kept on walking until I met a woman I had never seen before sitting in front of a closed door and holding what looked like a doctor’s prescription.

Reading through, I realized it was going to cost her a fortune to get her treatment. Strangely enough and without asking her opinion, I took her to the hospital pharmacy and paid for her medications. She was speechless, so grateful and the smile on her face said it all. I thanked her, and left carrying along her contagious smile.

My dear people, giving is not about the other person’s perceived need; it’s about the act itself. We are choosing to be the best version of ourselves when our actions demonstrate the best within us. Do you remember how you felt the last time you gave? I am willing to bet you felt good about yourself, and good about the act. And that’s great! Now, was that good feeling because you filled a need, or because of the act in general? Think about it and think seriously.

I must tell you that such good feeling comes because giving is an act of kindness. I could have looked at the woman at the hospital that day and conclude that she didn’t need or deserve my financial support especially as I didn’t plan to go to that hospital that day. My gift to her was not because she was desperate and abandoned. My gift to her was about kindness. It was about doing that extra little bit to lift someone else up.

In the spirit of giving, think about a gesture of kindness you can make to someone who you know or to a complete stranger. This is typically thought of as a random act of kindness or a good deed towards someone with the motivation to spread goodwill and brighten someone’s day. This gift of kindness can bring about the greatest positive impact on a person’s mood or spirit.

Discernment, My Secret

Dear lovely people,

A group of young development professionals visited me recently and sort to know how I get to do the many things I do so well. I told them what I tell many other people most of the times and so today I tell you too. It has worked for me and I am sure it will work for you.

One fundamental secrete in achieving your dream in life is to develop a high sense of sound judgement. I am talking about the capacity to consistently assess situations or circumstances insightfully and to draw sound conclusions that move you forward. This is not to say however that you try to become infallible, No! But that you get accustomed to informed decision making all the times.

Whether you own your own business or work for an organization, you have to strive to be the leader that builds trust and rapport with your close associates be them employees, colleagues, family or partners through sound decision making skills that consistently produce fair and ethical judgments and evaluations.

When you consistently make fair, sound decisions and judgments, you rip positive returns on such an investment. You witness your own effectiveness and credibility increase effortlessly. Your close associates will learn that they can rely on you to make a fair judgment and evaluation despite the fact that it may not be easy or popular.

When your collaborators know they can rely on the equity of your judgments, trust is strengthened. Your personal and professional reputation thus enhanced, you collaborators will rely on your judgment and be eager to work more closely with you and so your growth to prominence is ascertained.


I work tirelessly to exercise sound judgment in all of my decisions. Effective decision-making plays an important role in the development of good judgment skills. You can start by deliberately going through a checklist of key points until they become second nature. Developing good judgment is based upon your ability to look at all sides of a problem or issue and to weigh all of the options before a final determination is made.

“It is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped” says Tony Robbins