The Pull and Push of life

Dear loving people,

 

I can firmly say that nobody came into this world with the least intention to remain a resolute failure or to live a mediocre life. Everybody wants to succeed in the things they do. You want to be the best a true Christian, the best banker, geologist etc. The greatest question is; what accounts for the different results we witness every day? Why do some succeed where others have failed? Apart from the attitude, determination, focus explanations that we’ve been told accounts for much of this difference, is there some other explanation to this?

 

The Pull and push we are subjected to in life as a result of a catalog of reasons may offer another explanation. SANJAY in an article – the push-pull of life says…

“In the journey of passing through the life, we are being lured with many temptations. Some good, some bad. There are times when you can’t judge what’s right & what’s wrong for you. You tend to move on with the flow, the pull of the events, the pull of the people around you. But as we know & understand, nothing lasts forever. The experiences you have passed through, the actions you have taken, the behaviour you have conducted; seem to be standing at crossroads with your own self. You regret some, you embrace some, and you smile at some. The ones who create a sad feeling in within you are the ones which remain as ghost images and follow you like a shadow.

 It’s important to release these threads, the bindings, by making truce with the people, the events, the actions attached with such emotions. Unless you can make yourself completely detached & feel pleasantly released, you may not experience & live your life with the same passion, zeal & strongly positive emotions. The only way to break out of such negative formations, is to enter into mutually pardonable situations & make peace with the people, events & actions; responsible for such formations.

 

Viktor Frank said that “Life can be pulled by goals just as surely as it can be pushed by drives.” Possession is an example of a drive; we are often driven to have more. Some are driven to have more toys. I mean, we always have to have the latest. You can’t just imagine the number of people who are into this kind of deal. Popularity is yet another, we are driven to be popular. We are driven just to go along with the crowd. We are driven to see how many people know us and how many people we are known by. We are driven to be famous

 

Viktor Frank continues to say that “Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.” That is it, that is where we begin to differ, that is where the differentiation in the amount of success we each register takes place.

 

In facing the challenges we come across daily, we factor in talents, character, motivation etc. Johann Wolfgang von Goethe said “Talents are best nurtured in solitude. Character is best formed in the stormy billows of the world.” Your experience in facing the challenges that come your way as you move up your ladder of success shapes your character.

 

In all that you do, remember to keep the words of Hamilton Wright Mabie

“The question for each man to settle is not what he would do if he had means, time, influence and educational advantages; the question is what he will do with the things he has. The moment a young man ceases to dream or to bemoan his lack of opportunities and resolutely looks his conditions in the face, and resolves to change them, he lays the corner-stone of a solid and honorable success.”

 

Still Life in the song – The Push and the Pull sings…

 

“I feel this empty like bullets deep inside me. I made a chair a place to dig them out. I drove these answers through my hands like nails to fill what I don't understand

And the days fell like sand. Leaving scars where they land.

Kept inside we build ourselves of stone.

Without shame without pride, even stone is broken in time

And my chair my place has long since turned to sand.

 

Without shame without pride, even stone is broken in time

And the truths I’ve known have all since turned to lies

All will be forgotten

I feel the sun against my skin

Alive. All will fall in time

We were born out of dust only to return

Make of this what you will, but reap what you sew

Nothing”