You Need To Network

Dear loving people,

After a keynote speech I delivered at an annual general meeting of a women’s consortium, a young lady walked up to me asked “you seem to be on the better side of life, and do have this flair for conversations, what is your secret?”

Her question got me laughing and I told her that people don’t just find themselves on the better side of life by some sort of chance. You work for everything you get. While I conversed with her, Adrienne E. Gusoff‘s words flashed into my mind "Living in a vacuum sucks."

This is very true, working for your success requires that you create relationships with those who are already making it. It has to be like that because working alone is part of a failure mechanism. The main aim of relationships is to connect with the thoughts and feelings other people are having. Oftentimes, rephrasing something they've said is a good way to show you understand the emotion behind the message. They'll be far more inclined to connect with you if you're prepared to show this level of commitment. That is how you tap from their ingenuity for your own growth.

Another ingredient has to do with what Margaret Millar says "Most conversations are simply monologues delivered in the presence of witnesses." While it’s profitable to linkup and to sell yourself, choosing your words can make or break an encounter with someone else. But doing so does not have to be hard. Ultimately, it's good to know that as long as you're prepared to make an effort, there are friendly people all over the place just waiting to converse. Go up to them and make them feel you care about what they say not about what you have to say.

You can create any profitable network you want if you put your heart to it.