Today, I talk to all and especially the
women who spend time and energy focusing on things that can’t really help them.
I was mentored by the formidable Ngobessing Suh Romanus to be a crusader for
individual achievement and success in life. As a matter of fact, Mr Ngobessing
is a living compendium of personal development and I don’t know of anybody who
met him and remained the same ever after.
It was in the course of my motivational
speaking work that I met Acha Sabina. Sabina’s story is a clean mix of struggles,
a demonstration of resolute TENACITY and quest for success.
Just like many other young girls who
make themselves vulnerable to obsessive young men, she was deceived by a reckless
teenager to become pregnant while in high school. The so-called boyfriend disappeared
into thin air before she gave birth to a set of twins and so she was forced to
abandon school to be able to care for her children.
One might have bet she was doomed to a
life of poverty as a single-parent. If you took that bet, you would have lost. Sabina
decided she was going to succeed despite the fact that the odds were against her.
Through education and hard work, she was determined to give her children a
better life. It was in her quest to give meaning to her temporally shattered life
that she was directed to me for coaching. She worked extremely hard preparing
for her GCE Advance Level certification from home, worked when she was not studying,
received help and support from friends, family, and during our coaching
sessions.
Behold, just thirteen years later today
after that unplanned pregnancy, Sabina has a Masters degree in Geography, a
great job and riding a comfortable car. Her life is back on rails and she’s
admired by her peers.
So, how come she was able to change the
hands of the clock? It’s because not only was she supported by her parents and
friends as she went through University studies but she knew exactly what to do
and how to seek assistance on the way. She used her unfortunate situation as an
eye-opener and corrected course. At her graduation ceremony, this is what she
had to say “I was challenged by the situation I found myself in years back, but I
was inspired and supported relentlessly by my family and friends to complete my
studies no matter those challenges so, I once more had the opportunity to change
the direction of my journey and rewrite my destiny.”
Here is the point! Faced with the
huddles thrown at her, she did not give up, she did go complaining about all
the injustices mated on women or how the world was so unfair to women, she did
not border about gender inequalities and stuffs like that not because they don’t
exist but rather because she told herself she could rise above all of that. She
told herself, education will do the magic and so she set to work with resolute
tenacity and that’s how she made it.
Most people will tell you that tenacity
is a great quality to have, especially if you're trying something challenging
that takes a while to complete. Odds are, the people you admire have shown real
tenacity in achieving their goals. Anything really worth doing takes
persistence, perseverance, and stubborn determination. Being a great football
player requires real gifts, no doubt, but even the most gifted player won't
make it to the big leagues without the tenacity required to make the long, hard
journey up from the minors.
And to the women, forget about all these
extremist feminist tendencies of gender inequality, gender this or that, if you
get the right education in any field and master your art, no man can joke with
you, no man (I am talking as a man) can have the courage to trample on the
rights of a women who has what it takes and who knows exactly what she doing.
Tenacity is the quality displayed by someone irrespective of
gender, who just won't quit — who keeps trying until they reach their goal.
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