Light Up the Path

Dear Loving People,

For those who have watched Micheal Jackson’s glistering performance in ‘Billie Jean’ one of the most expensive musical clip ever made must have noticed that each step he took lighted up the path on which he walked, everything he touched lighted up with radiance.

That gives you a picture of what you have to do in people’s lives if you really want to rise to the top and fast. How often do you come across people who rather darken their paths with what they qualify as ‘secrets’ all because they want to succeed alone? They discover something that makes them more performant and want to keep it all to themselves as a secret. Keeping secrets that adversely affect other people's performance is a strong sign of an inferiority complex. When people find out you held them back, you will lose their trust. As an edge over such personalities, always ask yourself what else you can share to help others. Then share it and by so doing, you win them over, they’ll keep coming to you for more.

In sharing however, do watch out not to play the ‘smart-guy’ to those with whom you share. If you add to discussions by sharing the smart stuff you have done, you are equally pointing to an inferiority complex. You start feeling as if you need to puff out your chest in order to get noticed. No one likes a bragger. Always do what the success prone person does; the most successful leaders have an ‘air’ around them. They don't need to brag and show off; they simply bring confidence to the table. Their every move lights up the path.

You have to understand that exhibiting confidence starts from being able to manage your anger. Sharing your thoughts when you are angry can be dangerous if you can’t manage your anger properly. Emotions will cause outbursts and may do irreparable harm. Learn to detach yourself physically from a situation that makes you angry (how? subject to another write-up). Then give yourself a little break, take a walk in the garden. You will be in a better position to talk when your emotions are not dominating. 

Remember, it’s your obligation to put others first because that’s the passage to your prominence. You let others take you to prominence by projecting them.